Divorce Club Striving To Save Marriages

PENANG: Divorces have become an increasingly common phenomenon in Malaysia nowadays.

In view of the increasing divorce rate, which may have a negative bearing on the family values and social harmony in the country leading to potentially lower marriage rate, a group of divorced men and women have decided to set up a Divorce Club aimed at providing counselling services and assistance to divorced people, while through their own experiences offering advice to couples encountering marital problems with the hope they do not relinquish their marriages easily.

According to statistics, Taiwan has the highest divorce rate in Asia, while the low marriage rate and high divorce rate in Malaysia have aroused concerns from the society.

Co-founder of the Divorce Club, Yang Fu Long, 47, told Guang Ming Daily that during a gathering with friends that included men and women, they found that more and more people were having marital problems while some of the people were suffering from depression because they were unable to take the consequences of divorces.

Someone to talk to

As a result, they proposed to set up the Divorce Club, with the hope they could provide a channel for people to talk and support those who might encounter marital problems or frustrations in their marital relationships by sharing their own experience divorce experiences.

After the idea was mooted, Yang said more than twenty people had responded positively .The founders hope with their own experiences in divorces, they could offer some useful counselling services to people having problems with their marriages.

"All of us have experienced this kind of thing; we understand that when people are facing potential divorces, they need someone to listen to them and that is where the Divorce Club will come in."

Hotline service

Yang said currently the club had more than twenty male and female members, aged between 30 and 50, some having been divorced for more than 20 years while some have just been divorced for merely a year.

He said, the Divorce Club plans to set up hotline services as well in order to advise people facing divorce and provide legal consultation services.

The establishment of the club is not meant to encourage people to divorce or advocate the divorce culture in the society. On the contrary, it voices concerns over the increasingly serious phenomena of late marriages and high divorce rates in the country.

A place to share

With regard to the establishment of the Divorce Club, Wang Yu Xian, a counsellor at the Women’s Aid Organisation, feels that if the purpose of establishing the club is to provide a space for mutual encouragement for divorced people, then the country will have one more aid group with a supportive nature, and this will have a positive influence on our society especially at a time when people’s hearts are getting more and more fragile.

She said the sharing space indeed plays a crucial role when people are encountering setbacks due to marital failures, as they need someone to talk to. This could help them overcome the frustration.

"In many cases, due to lack of this kind of outlet in our community or lack of care from the family, the divorced people’s may often be forced into a dead end. As a matter of fact, so long as there is a proper channel for them to vent their depressed emotions they would soon be back to their normal lives."

However, Wang reminds the Divorce Club that if they want to provide hotline services to the public, the counsellors must be professionally trained, for if an organisation lacks this kind of professionalism, the counsellors may themselves be dragged into the quagmire of their own emotions while listening to the grievances of the complainants.

According to her, although all the club's members have personally experienced similar destinies themselves, as professional counsellors, they should have already got over their own traumatic experiences and be self reminded to handle their emotions in a professional manner, otherwise they might influence the people who are supposed to share their sorrows with them.

Source: Sin Chew

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Sampan Wedding

TELUK INTAN, Perak: Her parents held their wedding ceremony on a sampan 28 years ago and today, she had a special wedding on the same sampan that "sailed" on land.

Malay bride Nurul Ain, 25, was a newly graduated bride while her husband Mohamad Hafi was an engineer working in Kuala Lumpur.

Nurul said that her parents held their wedding on 14 April 1982 and they sailed on the sampan across Sungai Perak. Today, they are living a happy life with seven children.

Therefore, she wished to hold a similar wedding on the same sampan and the only difference was, the wedding was held on land instead of river.

Source: Sin Chew

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Sampan Wedding

TELUK INTAN, Perak: Her parents held their wedding ceremony on a sampan 28 years ago and today, she had a special wedding on the same sampan that "sailed" on land.

Malay bride Nurul Ain, 25, was a newly graduated bride while her husband Mohamad Hafi was an engineer working in Kuala Lumpur.

Nurul said that her parents held their wedding on 14 April 1982 and they sailed on the sampan across Sungai Perak. Today, they are living a happy life with seven children.

Therefore, she wished to hold a similar wedding on the same sampan and the only difference was, the wedding was held on land instead of river.

Source: Sin Chew

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Female Casanova Cheats Men Thousands Of Ringgit

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In recent news reports a 'beautiful' 25 year old woman known as Michelle Lee Pai Yin conned 6 men thousands of ringgit since 2002.

The woman has allegedly conned 6 men to marrying her in the traditional Chinese ceremony by claiming she was pregnant, then later, ran off with money belonging not only to them, but also to their relatives and friends.

After befriending the men and persuading them to marry her, the woman would give her victims various excuses in postponing their marriage registrations, agreeing to only participate in the customary Chinese wedding ceremony.

In the latest incident, the woman befriended a 25 year old man on Facebook in March and asked him out the next day.

The victim, in a newspaper interview, said that after their first date, the con woman insisted in following him back to his home under the pretext of wanting to use the Internet. But once she was in his home, she went straight to his room and they had sex.

She subsequently moved in with him and she insisted on having regular sex with him in an attempt to get pregnant. A month later she told him that she was pregnant but refused to go for a pre-natal check-up.

In May, they went through a Chinese wedding ceremony in the victim’s hometown in East Malaysia.

The woman allegedly collected RM300,000 from family members of the "groom" before disappearing.

According to one of her "husbands", she was very cunning in creating the illusion that she was pregnant. She had bought pre-natal health supplements and wore large clothings to give the impression she was pregnant.

I cannot believe that there are men in Malaysia who are still so naive. I have seen women taking advantage of men all the time especially in clubs and restaurants. These men are born to be "sui yu" (literally meaning "water fish" a term in Cantonese referring to a sucker).

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African Conmen In Malaysia

Today the Star reported that at least 200 people in the city have been conned of nearly RM10mil since early last year by Africans who entered the country on student visas.

The newspaper said that these "students" are actually conmen enrolled in local colleges under fake scholarships.

You can usually spot these Africans cruising in flashy cars and frequenting nightspots in the city.

These conmen Africans who have allegedly made their money in shady activities abroad decided to “settle down” in Malaysia keeping their money in local banks.

Once in Malaysia they continue with their illegal activities by targeting mostly single successful women who are either divorced or widowed. The victim include The victims include doctors and university lecturers, the newspaper reported.

In some cases, says the police, the victims met the conmen through social networking websites. These conmen would usually post pictures of other people, sometimes of famous models, just to get closer to the victims.

The police said that scams by Africans is the highest in the list of commercial crime cases in the city.

The police expressed concerned that despite numerous warnings, Malay­sians continue to be duped by these African conmen.

According to various news reports, many of the victims would freely give up their money after being swept off their feet by Africans who seduced them with sweet talk and promises.

For instance, a few months ago, a local Malay tabloid reported that a grandmother was wanting to divorce her crippled husband to be with her Nigerian lover despite being cheated of RM600,000 of her EPF savings.

The 58-year-old executive, known only as Sofea, told the tabloid that she loved the Nigerian so much although she knows of his shady activities.

Sofia said, “When he was in Malaysia, I knew that he saw other local women but I just couldn’t leave him despite he being accused of stealing from them."

Sofia told the daily that when she first knew the Nigerian, he would often cook her dishes from his country.

“Since then, I was crazy for him even though he was not handsome. I gave him whatever he wanted, even paying the rental for his condominium,” she said.

However, Sofea, now believes that the Nigerian had used "black magic" to put her under a charm, and she is currently seeking treatment to remedy this.

Another story by an local online newsportal involves a 44 year old divorcee Azie who works as a bank officer who was cheated her of all her money by an African.

She met the African who was 10 years younger at shopping mall in Kuala Lumpur last year and they became lovers.

The African claimed to be a student. borrowed RM3,000 from Azie only after a month knowing her. Since then, he kept asking for money and claimed that it was rental, tuition fees etc. After borrowing a total of RM80,000 from her, the African disappeared.

A few days ago there was also a news report of a mother who suspected that her missing daughter had become a drug mule for an African crime syndicate. The mother said that her daughter was frequently on Facebook and had befriended a group of African men recently.

Read more on how desperate women get conned.

What makes local women fall for the obviously dubious character of these African "students" ?

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Wook Kundor's Secret To Keeping Younger Men

Wook Kundor, a 108 year old woman from Kuala Terengganu who has married numerous younger men, has a secret. She has, thus far, married 23 men.

Wook Kundor told a local daily that she has a “special massage” she learned from her ancestors. This massage is her secret weapon in keeping her numerous younger husbands from straying.

Without going into the details of the massage technique Wook Kundor says its a massage which focuses on rubbing the sensitive parts of the body.

Wook Kundor says that she uses the same massage to keep all her previous 22 husbands true to her until their deaths.

She says when her latest husband (husband no. 23) Mohd Noor Che Musa. 38, starts talking about younger women, she will start massaging him to dissuade him from thinking about them.

She said that it usually takes about an hour to complete the massage that will totally relax her partner. She also confessed that massage creates a closer bond between husband and wife.

Apart from massage, Wook Kundor also keeps all her husbands happy by cooking them delicious meals.

She also avoids nagging her husband as she believes nagging could lead to a strained relationship and an eventual break-up in the marriage.

Wook Kundor says keeping herself clean at all times and performing her daily prayers also helps strengthen a marriage.

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The Real Hitch

In the film Hitch, Will Smith plays Alex 'Hitch' Hitchens, a specialist dating guru for men who makes shitloads of money coaching successful but socially inept men find love.

Evan Katz is like Alex 'Hitch' Hitchens in real life. He is a dating coach who is "a personal trainer for people who want to fall in love" reports Agence France-Presse.

According to another dating coach, Jennifer Viemont, the people who employ the services of a dating coach are generally more educated and relatively high up on the socio-economic ladder as the fees for the dating coach relatively high.

Viemont who charges US$200 (approximately RM700) for 2 phone calls and unlimited email support for one month says that although her clients are successful in their careers, they are clueless when it comes to finding a soulmate.


Katz, whose fees are much higher Viemont, says that people who employ dating coaches have focused so much on their careers that they have ignored their emotional side of life.

A dating coach will generally start out with some questions and advice either by phone or email.

While Katz encourages his clients to meet people online, Viemont recommends that her clients meet potential mates in off-line activities, such as wine-tastings or dance classes.

Dating coaches apparently have their own, professional association, datingcoach.org, founded a few years ago.

I don't know if there are any professional dating coaches in Malaysia, but there are hundreds of dating agencies which organise dates between their clients from their database.

There are also marriage agencies who arrange marriage partners for men with women from Vietnam. But I've not heard of any specilising in finding husbands for women.

I do not think there is a demand for dating coaches in Malaysia as singles in the higher salary scale would rather "purchase" their mates rather than spend money on being coached to find love. No matter how socially inept they are they can always buy friends and also romantic relationship.

Despite the hype about finding soulmates and true love. I think the key is having money. I know lots of women who won't admit this but their first priority is money. Most will say they like good looking, funny, caring, pet loving etc etc kind of men...but they always end up with bastards with money. This is instinctive, and since time immemorial women have gone for security first. And in today's world, money is security.

According to a recent study by Indiana University cognitive scientist Peter Todd, men go for beauty and women choose wealth and security - read this. Yes, they actually had to do a study to confirm this !

Another news report says that women prefer rich men because they are better in bed. "Rich men are powerful and successful and confident and charismatic. They know what they want, and they go out and get it. That translates to being fantastic in bed.” said a 27 year old female lawyer. The newspaper reported that science is showing that a rich man’s money has aphrodisiac qualities as well as purchasing power. read this.


However, despite the usual story of women looking to "marry up", today, there is a growing trend (at least in the US) that Men now are increasingly likely to marry wives with more education and income than they have, and the reverse is true for women - read this. Men are getting smarter. They now know that they can get hitch to a financially productive woman and have an easy life.

Really, when you cut all the bullshit...everything comes down to money. With money, a fei-chai becomes a leng-chai and a fei-por can become a leng-lui.

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Demand For Male Social Escorts Raising In Malaysia

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Apparently there has been a rise in the number of male escorts over the past two years in Malaysia. Read this story:

After obtaining a diploma from Bali, Gary (not his real name), 36, started work as a masseur in Kuala Lumpur. He became very popular with many of his clients, especially female patrons.

His good looks and body were a big part of the allure.

"I used to love my job as a masseur, it was fulfilling and I got to meet a lot of people. But it didn't take me long to learn that many women were not just interested in a massage, they were looking for the 'plus, plus'.

"At first it came as a shock to me, but eventually I realised that I could make a lot of money."

That was three years ago. Today, Gary owns one of the biggest escort services in town.

"I have over 60 escorts, both male and female, who work for me. When I first started the company, business was not so great. Today, I can hardly keep up with requests. For whatever reason, more and more people are looking for male escorts. I believe it could be because of Internet porn sites.

"Each of my staff gets no less than 15 calls per month. Not a day goes by without a call from a client. Many times I have to turn them down because I don't have the manpower.

"It used to be simple requests -- men wanting female escorts. But that has all changed. These days, people are getting more adventurous and imaginative.

"Currently, the trend involves couples who want escorts, for whatever reason.

"We also get a lot of business from tourists who find us through our website or have heard about us from friends."

The assumption that female clients are usually "aunties", Gary says, is far from the truth.

"You'd be surprised to know that most of our female customers are between the ages of 20 and 40. Many are very beautiful women. I'm not sure why they need an escort when they can get picked up anywhere."

For the escorts, earning a monthly five-figure salary and receiving expensive watches, he says, is the biggest attraction.

"The first thing that comes to my mind when I receive a call is, 'How much?'. It is all about the money."

Gary says the male escort industry in Malaysia is picking up fast, making room for a lot of bogus independent escorts.

"There are many men claiming they can do this and that, but many are fakes. They are just looking for free sex. When clueless women hire these escorts, they are putting themselves in danger.

"A lot of these so-called escorts advertise their services on the Internet but they have no massage skills or personality. They are spoiling the market."

With the increasing demand, Gary says, he is hoping to recruit more escorts.

"My phone has to be on all the time. I take the last call at 3am. Many women contact us the moment their husbands leave. 'Hotel ABC, Room 308, Ms. X', those are the messages that pop-up on my phone throughout the day."

But not all male escorts are doing well. Some of the "small fish" are struggling to stay alive.

David (not his real name), 21, is one of them.

"I'm a foreign student in a Malaysian university, trying to find the money to complete my studies. While surfing the Internet, I discovered that I could earn quite a bit of money being a social escort. I decided to give it a try.

"I offered my services on every expatriate website I could find. I wasn't sure what to advertise at first, but there were many examples to follow. It was as if I was trying to sell a product.

"It's only been four months since my first post and I've already had three clients. All of them were housewives in their 30s.

"I don't specify an amount, but the usual fee is RM300 for two hours. The money is just enough for taxi fare and groceries.

"On a good day, you'll get a client who wants you to spend the night and follow her to dinner, that would cost around RM1,500. But, that rarely happens.

"Business has been slow and I'm looking for that 'one' lady who will be able to support me. I don't mind being exclusive to her, as long as she can pay for some of my expenses until I complete my studies. It's difficult because many women don't want that commitment.

"I can't afford to have a girlfriend right now as I'm sure she won't allow me to be an escort."

David says his family would be devastated if they knew what he did.

Brian (not his real name), 24, is in the same boat.

"I'm a part-time gigolo. The response has been slow, as the competition is getting tougher. We have to be unique to get noticed.

"So far, my clients have been couples who are looking to spice up their marriages. Many clients invite me into their home and we talk a little before they lead me to the bedroom."

He says there has to be some level of trust, if one wants to be in the escort industry.

"It's not 100 per cent safe, as many things could go wrong. As much as the client is wary about me, I'm also worried about what might happen in their home. They could be the police or thieves.

"But if I worry about everything that could go wrong, I wouldn't be able to be an escort. I don't tell my clients how much I want. Whatever they give, it is a 'gift'. They normally pay around RM350 for a session."

And, the issue of safety?

"I go for a medical check-up every two months to protect myself. But if a client has a sexually transmitted disease, how would I know?

"That's the main reason I don't plan on being an escort forever. Eventually, I want to get my hotel management degree and settle down," he says.

GigoloJobs.com operator, Daniel Richter, has been a gigolo for more than six years and manages a popular international male escort service website.

"I started when I was at university, just for fun and money. Now, it has been for more than six years and I'm still loving it.

"Money is important and ultimately you need to get paid for your services, otherwise it turns into a relationship and this is something we don't want.

"But the main point is having fun. Where else can you get money for making women happy?" he says.

And, who are these happy women?

"It depends. Usually nice women who are quite busy. Sometimes you are hired by two or three teenage girls who just want to have a private party. But most of the time, it's middle-aged women who just want someone to listen to them."

Richter also enjoys being a gigolo because of the challenges involved, which he finds stimulating.

"My full-time job is being a tax adviser. Being a gigolo is rather a kind of a 'sport discipline'. To be attractive and to attract the woman client is challenging because they do not want to hire just a 'body'. They are looking for an attractive and interesting man, which you need to prove you are.

"I don't see any problem with that, as long as it's done on a part-time basis. You get a fixed salary from your day-job and make some good money from having fun. That is the point of all this."

Source: NST

There is also an article 2 years ago about Malaysian women paying for sexual services. And last year we learn about Toy boy clubs or Tai Tai clubs mushrooming in Singapore where older women purchase the services of younger men.

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Singaporean Online Casanova Cheats Malaysian Women

This is the latest story about cyber cassanovas preying on women:

He is neither good looking nor young, but this sweet-talking Casanova has managed to cheat at least seven women of nearly RM400,000.

The 41-year-old Singaporean, known as Dennis Lim, has a habit of preying on women through the social networking website, ahmoi.com.

That’s him!: Chong and Qi Qi checking out a picture of Lim at the department chief’s office in Kuala Lumpur yesterday.

One of his victims, Qi Qi, lost RM294,662 within the seven months of their “friendship.”

“I was not really attracted to him. He was really aggressive and he made the first move online,” said the 34-year-old businesswoman from Penang, who sought the help of MCA Public Services and Complaints Department head Datuk Michael Chong at his office yesterday.

She said Lim claimed to be a factory manager and knew how to take advantage of her weakness.

“He used sob stories to get my sympathy.

“For instance, he claimed his stepmother was admitted into ICU; that his ex-boss had delayed his business reimbursements and that he had met with a road accident before Chinese New Year.

“I felt sorry for him and wanted to help,” she said, adding that she allowed Lim to use her credit cards when he visited her in Penang in October last year.

Qi Qi started getting suspicious in March and lodged two police reports in Penang and another two in Singapore.

She later traced Lim’s caller history from a sub-line she started for him, and found six other women in Malaysia whom Lim had cheated for money and sex.

“His modus operandi is to get acquainted with lonely, single women online and then slowly work his way into their pockets with his sob stories,” Qi Qi said, adding that the victims had refused to make police reports against Lim.

Chong urged the other victims to come forward so that he could assist them.

“I will take this case to the Malaysian Interpol and relevant authorities,” he said.
He also reminded women to be wary of meeting strangers online.

Source: The Star

This story is not unlike many other stories such as an online Casanova called "Shafiq" who sweet talks chubby teenage girls into giving him money and then leaving them stranded - read here.

Another story is about Benny. He is young, handsome, suave, smooth and well-dressed and used his charm to swindle women of their money. Read the story here.

Buying Love For RM181,500

According to news reports, Indonesia intends to demand a $55,000 (approximately RM181,500) "security guarantee" from foreign men who marry Indonesian women.

The money is to be paid into a bank before the couple can get married. This is part of marriage law reform by Muslim conservatives in the country.

The proposed provision, however, only applies foreign men wishing to wed Muslim women. This will not apply to Christians, Buddhists or Hindus Indonesian women.

Should the couple divorce within 9 years, the wife will be entitled to the money. If the couple remain married for at least 10 years, they have equal claim to it.

The provision is clearly to protect the rights of the women and their children.

Some Indonesian Muslim women threaten to leave the country and marry their foreign boyfriends overseas if such law if enacted.

According to the an Indonesian government official, the guarantee is designed, among other things, to stop foreigners entering fake marriages or marriages of convenience in order to set up businesses or buy property in their wives' names, and to ensure that women are financially secured against divorce.

A lot of Indonesian women are against this law as they are of the opinion that it turns women into a commodity. They still believe in true love.

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A Unique Bridal Car

Photo by Guang Ming Daily

According to Guang Ming Daily Groom Xu Jinwen in Johore Bahru impressed his bride by decorating the bridal car by spray-painting it with their wedding photos.

Xu Jinwen, a spray painting machine dealer, took two weeks to complete the whole works from designing, spray-painting, cutting and pasting. Of the two weeks, one whole day was spent on spray-painting the car alone.

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What Are You Gonna Do On Valentine's Day ?

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Valentine's Day, whilst believed to be of controversial religious origins and not been celebrated by church service and community celebrations, has nevertheless been glorified in the commercial world.

Whatever little religious significance of Valentine's Day, has now been overshadowed by its modern meaning - dinners, flowers, chocolates, teddy bears and an assortment of other gifts.

Worldwide spending for Valentine Day is expected to cross US$50 billion this year despite the global recession.

Love and affection which are inherently human instincts have been capitalised by commerce. It has and always will be about money.

Despite this, it is interesting to note that Muslims worldwide consider Valentine's Day a Christian religious festival and are thus discouraged from celebrating it. This may be a wise move despite its reasoning.

Undeniably, when Cupid starts his annual flights, men have very little to celebrate. Less than 2 months after the Christmas holidays and New Year's Eve celebration, the romance starved male is pressured yet gain to spend money because of another commercially centred gimmick. For the Chinese male, Chap Goh Mei (Chinese Valentine's Day) is also another wallet thinning exercise, albeit smaller, and its just about a week prior to Valentine's Day. Due to the circumstances of the event, it isn't surprising why girls are more enthusiastic about Valentine's Day than guys.
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Nonetheless, over the years there is a growing trend amongst single guys and some astute lovers to boycott Valentine's Day. While attached guys cuddle their girlfriends over candlelit dinners, single guys are getting together at nightspots and massage parlours to celebrate their independence. More adventurous single males are making the most of this dubious commercial celebration by purchasing girls from China, instead of purchasing teddy bears for their potential girlfriends.

I've asked some people what they gonna do on Valentine's Day this year and these are the answers (their names have been changed for privacy):

Guys

Thomas: I will be saving money this year, so I'm going to buy my girlfriend a lottery ticket, because she's worth millions to me. It will be even better if she wins something.

Yee Cheng: I'll be redundant romantically by Valentine's Day, so I suppose it will be a non-event to me. Actually, its better getting dumped before that day. Its a strategic move for me.

Edwin: Still far ahead, not thinking about it yet. I'm sure I can find somewhere to eat. The normal stuff, right ?

Andy: As I don't have a girlfriend, I think I'll just go to some club and find a girl to be my girlfriend that night. Simple.

Wee Kiat: I've been lining up my facebook potentials. I've been working overtime on my facebook activities - hope to "kena" a nice one.

James: Normal lah, dinner with guys...then off for a "happy massage", after that, happy hours then go clubbing "cuci mata", try my luck. What's your plan ?

Chee Kien: Valentine's Day ? Work lah, when people spend money, I make money. I'm thinking of selling flowers in Bukit Bintang..for the stupid mat sallehs to buy for prostitutes. If you got money, everyday can be Valentine's Day and every girl wants to be your bunny.
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Girls

Sabrina: He better take me somewhere nice this year. I've been looking out for a nice place to spend Valentine's Day...any good suggestions ?

Linda: I'm gonna spend some time with the girls...all girls night out. Hunting for cute guys hehehe.

Swee Li: I thought of having like 6 couples for dinner at a hotel somewhere, then book a suite and gamble...or whatever...Just wanna do something different this year.

Pik Wah: Don't ask me about this la. Boring, boring, boring...Useless guys !

Clove2 of the Star - Poll

So what you gonna do on Valentine's Day this year ? Please post your comments.

Online Boyfriend Being Naughty

According to the Star, a 32 year old consultant is now worried that her nude photos taken by her online boyfriend will be posted online.

The consultant got to know the man called, William Bobby Madoff, through Yahoo messenger for almost a year.

Although she has never met this man who is from a foreign country, she had fallen deeply in love with him.

Taking advantage of the situation, William Bobby Madoff persuaded her to pose naked via webcam.

After breaking up with the man, he now threatens to leak the photos on the web.

This is not the only thing about this William Bobby Madoff. In April last year, William told the consultant to expect a package containing valuables such as a mobile phone, a laptop and some jewellery.

Then a week later, someone claiming to be from the billing department called and asked her to pay RM3,880 for delivery of the package.

When she contacted her boyfriend to clarify about this he said he had paid the charges in his country and was unaware of other charges to pay in Malaysia. However, he urged her to pay for the charges.

She has since reported all this to the police.

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Plump Girl Desperately Seeks Companion For Valentine's Day

Diva reported recently that the Singaporean girl in the picture above has gone to website, STOMP, to publicly appeal for a date on Valentine's Day.

According to the report, she emailed STOMP saying, "I am Valentine, 25, and I will be turning 25 on 14th February 2010, which is Valentine's Day, Chinese New Year and also my birthday.

"I was wondering whether STOMP can make my birthday wish come true.

"I would like to have a memorable 25th birthday to remember and it's not often 3 situations can occur on a single day (birthday, Valentine's Day plus Chinese New Year), therefore I would like to have an opportunity to have a smashing birthday.

"Can you find me my Valentine?"

However, the response from netizens' was less than flattering. Apparently, 62 people out of 70 people who voted, said "no" to dating her. Most were blunt saying that she was just not pretty.

A psychiatrist when analysing her said there are 2 possible reasons for her actions. She is either
mature and self confident or she's immature and lacks self confidence.

He said if she has self confidence, she would have expected such criticisms but is unfazed by it. But if she lacks self confidence and just wanted to have fun in attracting some attention, the vicious comments will erode her fragile confidence.

Here are what some comments in support of her say:

• "I admire her openness. For that she deserves to be applauded. Guys, please do not degrade her. Look at yourself in the mirror first before saying anything negative about others. It's better to have inner beauty than beautiful external aesthetics."

• "Well, I am surprised at the bad responses she got because she's not forcing anyone to date her. For those who told her off, are they sure that they are so good-looking ? They are just being mean to her. I like her frankness and honestly, from her photos, she's definitely not ugly. I would rather have a date and have fun with someone like her than going out with a 'beautiful vase'.

• "It is a brave act to share her happiness with someone she looks forward to. Don't spoil her life with ruthless comment. We should inspired others not create despair. :)"

Ok, what do you think, guys ? Will you date her or not ?

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Menstrual Blood Vegetable & Nasi Kang Kang Recipe

Last year, Indra Ningsih, an Indonesian maid, was charged in Hong Kong for allegedly adding menstrual blood into her Hong Kong employer's food in an attempt to improve her difficult working environment.

The 26 year old Indonesian maid believed that the vegetable recipe she prepared, with her menstrual blood as an ingredient, would improve her strained relationship with her employer.

She was however caught in the act by her lady boss before she could proceed with her plan...

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Some southeast Asian cultures believe that virginal fluids, including menstrual blood, have special supernatural powers and is commonly used by individuals and witch doctors in rituals.

In Malaysia, a somewhat related recipe is called nasi kang kang. According to Malay folklore, a woman who feeds her husband or boy friend with nasi kang kang can have absolute control over him.

It is a very easy recipe to follow - no advanced cooking skills are required. You just need patience. The female must squat (kang kang), without panties, over a pot of steaming hot rice (nasi) until the steam condenses at her muff and thighs. The condensed sweat and virginal fluids are then allowed to drip into the pot of rice. The fluids are then mixed thoroughly with the rice and served to the clueless man together with his favorite dishes.

There are many variants to this method. Some people say that it works only if done during a full moon, while others say that a full moon is not necessary.

Some women have reportedly improvised this recipe successfully by using claypot chicken rice. This method is useful for busy career women - just tar pau (take away) the claypot chicken rice from a shop and do the kang kang at home. Mix the damn thing up and serve it to the man.

No need to keep a pet dog, just get a man. A man can be just as obedient after eating nasi kang kang.

Caution: Nasi kang kang doesn't work on all men. If it doesn't work on him, then something bad will happen to you. Take note of this warning.

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How To Pick Up Chinese Girls In Malaysia

Picking up Chinese girls in Malaysia is no longer as easy as it once was, two decades ago. This is thus the gwai lo (white man) guide to picking up Chinese girls in Malaysia today. Watch the video above first.

Here are some additional tips:

If you meet a cute Malaysian Chinese girl at a bar or club, don't start the conversation on topics like Karate Kid, ninja, anything kung fu, dragons or crouching tigers.

Don't try breaking the ice by asking if she's Lucy Liu or Coco Lee. Because chances are, she's not.

Trying to impress a Chinese girl by attempting some kung fu moves when you dance isn't cool.

As not all Chinese women are erotic masseuses and dancers, manicurists or hairdressers, as portrayed in travel literature, so don't ask her if she can "love you long time". In Malaysia, the social demographics is different. White collar Malaysian Chinese professional women are in the hundreds of thousands and a sizable number of them were educated abroad. These are the women you are most likely to meet in bars and clubs. The working class Chinese women in Malaysia speak mainly Chinese and are not proficient in English. They, for some reason, do not generally prefer to socially interact with Caucasians or anyone outside their race who don't speak Chinese.

Finally, don't ask her if she likes "White Guys". Because you won't want to be disappointed by her answer, as some can be sarcastic and will say they prefer Blacks instead. Others might just ask you point blank, "where did you do your tertiary education and what do you do for a living" or "whether you were you doing professionally well in your own country". They ask this to assess how much you're worth.

It is also important to bear in mind that Chinese women are materialistic and do evaluate men according to social hierarchy. Due to the "rise and fall" of Caucasian expats in Malaysia in the last two decades, they have learned that not all gwai lo are close to being Bill Gates or Prince William, and neither are they all top tier "Investment Bankers". But they will gladly accept all the free food, drinks and gifts from a gwai lo without feeling the obligation to reciprocate the courtesy in any way whatsoever.

However, having said all this, being flash and generous is, in most cases, a prerequisite to your success in picking up Malaysian Chinese women. Money will indeed still take you a long way, but not all the way, as it used to.

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Myspace Casanova Targets Chubby Girls

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A Malay tabloid reported that a 19 year old Casanova called "Shafiq" is at large sweet talking teenage chubby girls into giving him money and then leaving them stranded.

Shafiq, unemployed, apparently uses social networking website Myspace to seek out his victims. He is known to target only chubby or plump girls between the ages of 18 to early 20s. It is believed that upon persuading the girls to meet him offline, he charms them by giving them a jade necklace charged with black magic spells, to wear.

According to the news report, once the girl wears the jade necklace, she is powerless to resist Shafiq's requests.

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Noor Azura Mohd Yusoff Appeals

Noor Azura Mohd Yusoff, the Malaysian prostitute based in Birmingham, England who was sentenced to 15 years in prison in August last year for killing a Chinese karaoke hostess Evelyn Xie Xing Xing, is in the news again.

The 23 year old Noor Azura, now held at the Holloway women’s prison in London, is currently awaiting decision of her appeal at Royal Court of Justice in the UK.

If her appeal is allowed by the court, her earlier conviction will be quashed and the prosecution could ask for a re-trial, the Malay Mail reported.

Noor Azura’s boyfriend, 28 year old Trach Lon Gian, a Vietnamese, who was also convicted for the same crime is currently serving 22 years at Long Lartin prison in Worcestershire . Trach Lon Gian, has also appealed against his convictions and sentence.

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Popular Website For "Casual Encounters"

A local daily has recently reported that there is a Singapore based website which is popular for "partner swapping" leading to casual sex. The website, called [website link deleted], has apparently been operational since march this year. The website is more or less a general classifieds which also has a personals section called "casual encounters".

Apparently, it is also common in Malaysia these days for people to seek casual sex partners or "special" buddies. Men or women pick up the opposite sex in clubs and, if they are in the mood, they have sex with each other. They later keep in touch by a phone call or SMS and have sex whenever they have the mood without any relationship commitments.

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Desperate Women Get Conned Looking For Love Online

By Kharleez Zubin

Cindy Shoba (not her real name) is a desperate 39-year-old spinster in a hurry to find a foreign mate to tie the knot.

She found one over the Internet two months ago. But last week her dream turned into a nightmare. She almost lost RM10,000 to the boyfriend who turned out to be a conman out to fleece her.

Like Cindy, there are many unsuspecting women who turn to the Internet to find foreign husbands, usually "Mat Sallehs", but end up being cheated of thousands of ringgit.

The perpetrators, mostly from Nigeria and Algeria, have now changed their modus operandi trying to fleece women looking for love.

Although such scams have been around for some time, the perpetrators are now using the name of the Immigration Department to con unsuspecting female victims.

The latest - trying to get the victim to pay "release" money following their "arrival" at the KL International Airport.

Like Cindy, divorcee Rafidah, a 49-year-old school senior assistant from Perak, too nearly fell victim to this tactic used by these conmen who claim that they have been detained by Immigration at the airport for carrying large amounts of money and that the "officer" wanted some money to release him.

To augment their story, they get a fellow partner in crime, usually a local woman, to call the victim and identify herself as an Immigration officer and ask for some money to release the boyfriend.

The woman told Rafidah she was an Immigration officer and that her friend was in custody for bringing in "too much money".

She said Rafidah would have to pay RM50,000 to be credited to a given Maybank account. Rafidah told the woman to give her a few minutes for her to check how much she had in her account.

Sensing something amiss, Rafidah called a friend and told her the story. The friend told her to ask for the woman officer's office number in order to verify her story. The woman suddenly turned angry and said if she did not deliver the money to the account, her boyfriend would be detained.

In Cindy's case, she befriended a foreigner, M. Morrison, after she posted her profile on friendship network, Tagged.

After two months, he finally committed himself to coming to Malaysia and meeting her parents and asking for her hand in marriage.

"He called to say that he would be arriving at the KLIA on Friday night. I tried to reach him for two days but his telephone was disconnected.

I panicked thinking something might have happened to him," Cindy said. Then, on Sunday morning she received a call from a person called Diana who told Cindy that her friend was detained at the airport for carrying a large amount of money.

She gave a bank account and told Cindy to bank in RM6,000 before Monday when the Immigration officer would start processing him for the "crime".

"I panicked and pleaded with her to speak to my friend and she obliged and gave the phone to Morrison who told me the same story. When I told this to my friend, he called a Malay Mail reporter who checked with the Immigration at the KLIA and found that nobody by that name had been detained.

According to crime analyst Dr Kamal Ariffin, these conmen are operating from Malaysia and come to the country on student visas or social visit passes and continue staying in the country until they make a substantial "killing." They then leave and come back another day.

According to Malay Mail investigations, the conmen make an impression on their victims by calling them from "abroad" on their handphone when in fact they are in the country using prepaid telephone cards purchased overseas.

"Last week, the father of a victim from Johor called me saying his daughter was asked to pay some RM7,000 to get her present, a diamond ring sent to her by a foreign boyfriend whom she had befriended over the Net,"
Kamal said.

He said a women identifying herself as a Customs officer called her to say a package had been confiscated by the department and asked her to credit the amount to a given bank account before she could come and collect the parcel.

She told her father after she found she had been conned. "And the photos the conmen send when they are courting local women are in fact somebody else's, " Kamal added.

Source: The Malay Mail

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